Hi crusader759,

Welcome and congratulations on your realization! That is huge!

I suggest you get yourself in great mental health. I suggest therapy to help undo some of what you learned in your dysfunctional marriage. You kids learned dysfunction too, but you can't fix them. However, if you role-model getting healthy, being happy, learning new ways--they may be drawn to you. They'll want what they see you living. Does that make sense? Hope so...

I wish you well on your journey...