deepurplegirl, you are not responsible for the actions of anyone else but yourself, nor do you control them. With that said however, I am of the opinion that you should have more respect for your parents. It is their house and if you aren't happy about their decisions/rules/etcetera, perhaps it would be best if you found a new place to live. While I do think that your stepfather's reactions are too aggressive, I can understand why he has an issue with your behaviour.