Sam-I-Am:

Very cute name.

I think we all kinda battle with this. I think more than anything from reading your post that you are afraid to express your feelings and sometimes you take things personal. Two things that I am also guilty of.

From my point of view - I think you should focus a little on your independence. (Just my opinion not a must do.) But, like you I used to get kinda antsy when my ex did things like that because I was not in the "know". The HDTV thing - would have kind of bothered me too.

I think if he is supportive, you should tell him how you feel. Don't worry about running him off because if he's in it for the long haul he will listen. Sometimes its how you approach the issue. Like, maybe, you could tell him "You know, I know this sounds crazy and you were trying to surprise me but I really felt left out when you didn't tell me about the t.v. and other's already knew." But let him know that you appreciate the surprise factor.

Maybe get a little rest and ease with yourself. Talk to your therapist. I read a book that really helped me with issues like that. It's called, "Why Men Love *****es" by Sheryl Argov. Excuse the title but, it's really about how to maintain our independence as women yet allow men to feel like we want them there. It kinda puts into perspective the way men see our reactions and how our reactions affect our relationships.

It may not help in your situation but, it certainly helped me.

Take Care.