then now youre changing your story. because before you said sex was meaningless. im just wondering.... why is it that some people can have all the will power in the world and quit anything at anytime and others can't do anything about it.

it just sounds like your making excuses for the situation. you are totally discarding everything everyone has said, except for the people who have backed up your side. thats not a character disorder? people with neuroses come into these places feeling that they are at fault and wondering what they can do to fix it. you came in here putting blame on your husband and "admitting" to faults when youre not really taking responsibility for them, or else they wouldnt still be happening. you obviously don't want my advice, so ill stop coming to this thread.