The thing is that you can recognize the red flags now & take action now or ignore them & let them bite you later on.

I left a 33 year marriage for the same red flags I saw before I got married (plus a ton more reasons) but those red flags were foundational to all the other issues.

I would have rather cut my losses before the marriage than havibg to deal with all the legal issues I'm dealing with now & what a pain he has become in my life even thpugh I left him 11 years ago.

Red flags are there for a reason & need to be dealt with when they rear their ugly heads.....in order to save a lot of worse grief later on in life.

Decisions are difficult now....they get harder the longer they are not resolved