kayle,

men are very different from women on that one...well, most of them are. women want intimacy and with alot of men intimacy is synonomous with sex...my t said that. my husband, for instance has a low drive because of the meds he's on and that was that. i had to tell him that sex wasn't an issue with me. however, i still required intimacy and had to explain to him what that meant to me. at 46 he was shocked to learn what i perceived as intimacy. now, he's doing better with meds, etc...and things are better, but things have been GREAT since we've combined the both. they're never too old or young to learn what you, the woman in their life, needs. you must make that clear...whether he clams up or not, he's still has ears to listen.

tell him that your sex life isn't fullfulling. that should perk his ears up. if he still doesn't listen, then you may have a problem on your hands, as he might not change. he may have a problem with intimacy...that emotional closeness that bonds two partners. does he clam up on other forms of closeness or expression? that might be your clue. at that point, you may have to decide if this is something you can live with.

gl and let us know.

kd