Hmm, not sure what about my post is throwing you wmd but I'll try to clarify what I'm getting at.

If one person has power or control over another and uses that power or control to take sexual advantage of a person, that's abusive. Power or control can take many forms. It can be physical, social, institutional, etc.

So how could this apply to the scenario above? If the boy were physically stronger and he forced himself on her, if his three year advantage made him an elder or authority figure in her eyes (the way a babysitter or older brother might be), if he were more mentally or emotionally mature/experienced than her and she was easy for him to talk into things, then this argument of possible abusive behavior could apply.

To clarify further, I'm not saying it DOES apply, I'm just saying one of these factors could be relevant.

I'm also trying to point out that it's about the people involved and not the age. There is legal precedent for this in juvenile courts across the country. If say, some fourteen year old boy rapes a thirteen year old girl, nobody says, "well it's only a year difference."

And my motive for sharing that thought is a simple one, if someone feels hurt by a sexual act in their childhood, it shouldn't be dismissed just because of age. It needs to be understood, processed, and treated.

Cyran0