VO~ I'll guess that you're asking about the moving on part of the sentence rather than the triangulation part.

I came to therapy with the unrealistic expectation it would make me a different person, a fantasy that therapists fed actively and passively. (One therapist even sent me for a beauty make-over to go with what she thought was a reborn personality.) I was very timid, deferential and intimidated by any stronger personality, which was most people.

I've spent a great deal of time de-throning the gurus that therapists pretended to be. They had no magic; they couldn't possibly know what they feign. They were no more than people who took classes, had classmates, teachers and lunch like everyone else at schools that granted no special powers or wisdom. That process helped me to be less intimidated by everyone else with a "good act" as I understand the reason for it.

I had and still have strong goals for myself; to do interesting work with interesting, talented people. I eventually moved to a new city and got a better job. My artistic work takes me places. I've become less anxious just through growing older. I've also proven my own competence to myself, again helping me with that intimidation factor. I'm better at both dealing with bullies and seeing the root of their behavior. I also calm myself with fitness, and prior to knee problems, yoga and walks.

I'm convinced that I never would have made many changes thinking about my mother in a room. My changes needed to be out in the world.