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Apr 19, 2018, 08:15 PM
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Member Since: Apr 2017
Location: Canada
Posts: 2,880
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Originally Posted by Arbie
Pretty much any time someone is rude to me, or takes advantage of me, or doesn't respect my boundaries, I will receive some variation on that advice. We teach people how to treat us. My mother once told me, after someone had been blatantly rude and mocking toward me, "I doubt anybody would have said that to me. You must be giving off some kind of signal that tells people it's OK to talk to you like that." I'm sure there is a grain of truth in there, although to me it sounds a lot like, "Even when the other person really did act like a butt, it's still your fault for letting them." What to do about it, that's what I'd like to know.
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Do you always remember to point out their insensitivity, or do you keep your feelings to yourself?
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For the past several days on Facebook, I have not been free to express my own opinion without every demon in hell being unleashed on me. Understand, this doesn't only happen on Facebook. It can also happen in my own family. I've blocked a lot of people on Facebook, and I've gone no-contact with a lot of members of my family. I get so tired of that game where no matter what I say, somebody has to tell me I'm wrong, so they can come away feeling like they're smarter than me. It's not that I mind other people's opinions, or can't handle being disagreed with. It's that these things I posted, I got from other pages, and THOSE people weren't read the riot act for posting them. The argument didn't start until after I posted it on my page. (And then someone accused ME of trying to stir up drama.)
I passed along something my cousin posted on her page. The only response she ever got was mine, where I agreed with her. After it showed up on my page, however, all hell broke loose. At first I took it down off my page, because the argument got that ugly, but then I put it back up, essentially saying, "If you don't like it, tough cookies. This is my page, and I'll post what I want to." And I also ended up blocking a couple of people who were really nasty about it. After re-posting it, so far nobody has dared to comment. But they've also let me know that I'm making *them* feel like *they* don't have a right to an opinion.
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Did you ask for opinions?
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