Hi crusader!
Welcome to PC.
I am sorry for all you are going through. How heartbreaking to have family members not talking to one another.

You have your work cut out for you. The first order of business, I agree, is getting as healthy as possible. Lots of good suggestions offered above.
I hope you find the information and the support you may be seeking.
Please make yourself at home. Jump in wherever you feel led to do so.
Your first 5 posts are approved by a moderator before they appear. After 5 approved posts, you will also have access to chatrooms and to the Private Messaging (PM) system.
I hope to see you around the forums.

WC