I don't see you as being selfish at all to want the focus to be on your marriage and your life together. It's noble of him to want to look out for his parents, at the same time I find it baffling.

I'll be honest, as a mom raising sons I'm thinking I'd give my own a tongue lashing, but that's me and what conjured up reading this.

I see that this is your first post here.

Hope you find the support that you need.

Welcome to PC