Olive, for 21 pages, members have offered alternative ways of looking at your situation. Some of this may be insights that apply and some may not. You take offense pretty readily and want to argue point after point. Your mom and sis "only want what's best" for you. Your boyfriend "only wants what's best" for you. You seem to not be open to hearing that even people who love you are human and have mixed motivation that includes their own self-interest. Those other people manage to figure out what they want, while you remain stuck. We only know what you share, and you are very inconsistent. Getting annoyed with what is offered here is just another way of staying stuck. Being 24 is not like being 14. Take all the time in the world to explore and be true to yourself. Do nothing you're not ready to do. No one says you should do otherwise. But life moves on and this guy you are with seems pretty effective at figuring out what he wants and going after it. Your tendency to want to accommodate the wants and needs of others seems to displace you working on an agenda of your own. You idealize and romanticise. And you stay stuck.

If only you could know now what the future would be like if you chose this or that option. Everybody would love to be able to do that. The Kentucky Derby is coming up first Saturday in May. I wish I could know which horse is going to run the fastest. You seem to already know what you want to hear in this thread. "Have other people remained childless and been happy?" Sure, other people have . . . . which really has nothing to do with you.

I think everyone posting here - including me - has made an earnest attempt to suggest ideas different from your own as food for thought. And we differ from each other. And you are free to ignore what you find no value in. But the debating you do seems to be just another way of staying stuck.