Bottom line seems to be that you have BOTH grown to know what you each now know what yiu want in your life.....& it is NOW totally incompatible with each other. Doesn't matter what ut was or what it MAY be in the future.

You NOW have a HUGE difference that is thete that is a deal breaker for both & is diametrically opposed.

You have answered yoyr own questikns many times already throughout the thread at this point because youhave said that having kids IS important to you....that will never be compatible with "I NEVER want kids".

Got news, unplanned pregnancies happen all the time in marriages even when birth control is used. What would he do if that did happen & how would he feel about you & the baby or would he just leave you or pressure you into an abortion?.......& how would you feel about this?

Sounds to me that you have become clear about what you want & may just not be willing to admit that it does mean more to you.

People leave someone they love because they have grown incompatible all the time. Remember LOVE is JUST a feeling that can pass with time jyst like all our other feelings. Love connection happens actually due to the oxitocin that is created when we have intimate relations with the other person. When that is no longer happening, the feeling does subside.....that's just a technical fact.

You ultimately have to decide now or later....might as well be now since things really aren't going to change from what you are both knowing about yourselves at this time. Yiu both seem very set in what you REALLY do want but you sound like you are trying to talk yiyrsekf out if what you want.....he isn't. That is NIT A GOOD FOUNDATION for any marriage whether it is about kids or anything else. But that is also something yiu yourself have to come to the realization of.