Great post Eskie.

The key to good healthy marriage is to marry compatible people/right match. Not marrying incompatible people and then hope to be able to endure it or change the person. What you see is what you get.

Most marriages that end in divorce are marriages between incompatible people/wrong matches. The issue is that people don’t always know what they need and what are their deal breakers and if the person would be a good match. Then it’s ok to wait until one knows.

Love is great but if it was enough for marriage there would be no divorce at all. Love isn’t enough

And yes eskie is correct. It’s scientific fact, if you will be apart from that person you will not “always” love him. That’s how romantic love works. So there is no point to worry that if you leave him, you’d “always” love him. You won’t. It doesn’t work this way. (It doesn’t mean you won’t feel respect or care
about someone’s well being but you will not romantically love them). So I don’t recommend staying with people because you worry you’ll always love them. You won’t.