I kind of have a different approach. Let’s just assume just for arguments sake that all the above statements are true. They didn’t mean it, they meant well, blah blah blahbitty blah. So f@cking what? If it hurts.... it hurts! Explaining it away doesn’t make it hurt any less. Screw them! What other people think of me is none of my business. Own your feelings. Don’t feel bad that you feel hurt.

Facebook is a minefield. I used to get lambasted all the time. Then I started responding with my own opinions about their opinions. “I couldn’t disagree with you more if my life depended on it.” Etc. The only people that respond now are those who are actually interested in having an intelligent non abusive debate about opposing points of view.