Spot on. You need to ensure you are sending out vibes that instead of being a victim that you are strong and full of confidence. You need to be proactive when you 'meet' these men. That means asking lots of questions and standing firm to your criteria. Don't give up one because you think the person is a 'nice guy' and might come around. Listen to your 'spidey senses'; your intuition is generally right. Don't fall into the trap of "if he pays me attention he obviously likes me". Ensure your selection criteria is narrowly defined. Again, don't trap yourself by accepting something because maybe it might work. So re-evaluate your description and criteria. Don't settle for anything less.

When it comes to meeting these men and the wish to pursue relationships with them, STOP! Look at the situation from the point of view of a friend or outsider. Would they think this appropriate and be supportive? What would you say to yourself.

Practise some self-care. That means pulling yourself away from the computer. Ensure you get out of the house at least once daily. Hide away those things like phones and tablets out of sight so they are not distractions. I've said elsewhere that proper sleep hygene is incredibly important. Remember then to keep your bedroom free of all electonics including your phone.