Not sure where to turn. My husband's depression has been around for 6 months this time. He is withdrawing into himself, goes to bed at 9.30 pm and rarely talks about anything at length. He is at home raising our son and I work full time. He says he wants to be occupied while our 6 year old is at school but every suggestion I make is met with reasons why it is not suitable. Then he gets frustrated that I am not helping him.

I want to be in a happy positive marriage and the thought of living in silence for years is torture.

I don't know where to turn - am seeing my doctor as my husband will not. He says they will give him drugs which doesn't help. He says he is not sleeping, lives in his head, has to remind himself to shower and wanted to change our name in case someone made jokes about it to our son. I can't think this is normal and do not know whether to push him or let him be.

Very stressed and upset - I can't afford to be ill or off work, or not to cope but feel like my head is going to explode.

Any suggestions from anyone?