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Originally Posted by ruby2011
Because I really did think highly of her and several other ppl before her. I thought she was a great manager and a great person. A girl she used to work with at another fast food joint thought so too. She posted on Facebook basically what a positive influence the supervisor had on her and how very difficult it is to work at fast food, especially as a GM. She tagged her in that post. She posted about dealing with teenage employees and angry customers. Then she ended with how amazing that supervisor really is and said that she loved her. That post was almost 2 years after they STOPPED working together. And the supervisor reacted positively.
I’m sure she also reacted positively to her IRL when they used to work together. I obviously can’t imitate her since I never worked with her, but I tried to imitate my coworkers who also really liked my supervisor. That’s how come I got accused of talking her ears off while at work and I wasn’t even aware I did that. To this day, I’m not even sure I even called her name constantly like she said I did.
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This is my concern, Ruby. You repeatedly say "looking up to" when, for you, that means to stalk that person, or at the very least ignore their boundaries and hold them accountable for your behavior. The way you look up to someone lacks respect. So you're not looking up to them. Stop using this term.
When you look up to someone, it's a feeling of respect for that person. That's it. It means to admire and hold someone in a higher regard because of their role in a specific community. And to have that feeling should inspire you to improve your own character and become a better citizen within your community. You shouldn't be attention-seeking in this case. Instead, you need to sit down and contemplate how you can inspire others in a positive and healthy way? And if you truly respect someone who is a role model for you, you need to ask yourself what qualities do they possess that make them influential in their community? How can you develop these qualities?
Before speaking to this person, put yourself on a strict deadline when it comes to communication. Ask them if they have 10 minutes to talk to you. Be patient (because they don't have to talk to you at all if they don't want to). Have questions prepared before speaking with them. Do not get invasive.
You have to ask yourself, When I look up to someone, would I want a child to look up to me in the same way? Can I inspire someone younger than me or as inexperienced as I am?
You compare yourself to a child, you need to become the kind of woman that a child would want to look up to. Use your energy for personal growth.
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