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Apr 22, 2018, 09:39 AM
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Member Since: Apr 2018
Location: Earth weekdays, Pluto on weekends
Posts: 35
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Originally Posted by Nola0250
It can be really hard to build and maintain that through depressive periods. That's definitely what holds me back - I hate to develop a new friendship and then be a ****** friend when I'm down. That's where this site really helps, whether I'm up or down, I know there are friends here. Keep posting please!
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This is where I think we underestimate the strength of a true friend. Yes, we can unintentionally put them through hell, and that hurts, both them and us, knowing we've played a large part of it. The only options are withdrawal or preparation. I get scared when my bestie disappears, both my insecurities and for her health and wellbeing. And just not being able to help. Preparation helps us as friends, knowing what to expect from each other at different times when one or the other or even both of us goes into self preservation mode. Personally having such a small support network makes it that much harder.
What I will say is that anything thats worth the reward hurts in some way and has to be fought for. When it comes to a good friend, a really good friend, I'd rather break a little myself than be alone. When I'm really down, They're able to leave until the normal me returns. Either way it can and does hurt. That's where you try and focus on the reason why its happening....its not by choice....but the illness. A true friend thinks likewise
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