I think what he is doing is worse than hitting you. Bruises are at least easy to spot but emotional abuse is hidden. I used to pray for my abusinve husband to hit me so someone would see, step in, and rescue me.

What are you getting out of the relationship that enriches your life?

I suggest you find some help. There are support groups out there. Shelters than can offer support and resources. If you or your husband have an EAP through the workplace call it - it is anonymous even to your spouse. Talk to your doctor. He/she can direct you to resources. These resources can help you manage with the problem; they can also help you make a plan.

One support group you might wish to look into is something called Alanon. While it is primarily for loved ones of those with acohol and other addictions, they have great support for co-dependents of any persuation.

YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS! You are a worthwhile person who should be receiving respect.

I have another concern. It is vitally important that your children not witness this abuse. Your male children (if you have them) will grow up with the mindset that this is how to treat a woman and your girl children will grow up with the idea that this is how they should expect to be treated. Either way, it perpetuates the abuse into the next generation. This is another reason why I urge you to do whatever is within your means to get out of this situation.