I told my previous T that I had 'erotic transference', including very strong feelings of love for him and attraction to him - though I didn't exactly use those words. I found the whole thing extremely embarrassing and I tended to go into twelve-year-old mode. He took it well, didn't seem remotely shocked or disturbed or unable to handle it. Then things went horribly wrong for other reasons - at least I think for other reasons? - but that's a different story.

Since the bulk of my current T's role when I first started seeing him was hearing my anguish over everything that happened with T1, he always knew there was a good chance of me becoming very attached to him, too. And I have (though [mostly] without the ET). He is aware of it and also seems unfazed by it. Actually he seems to treat it as he does everything else I bring - with compassion and understanding. Having said that, I guess he's not fully aware of the extent of it. It's something I plan to talk more about, if I can be brave enough!

I know it's really hard to talk about this stuff. I do think it's very, very unlikely that your T will be in any way shocked by it or unable to handle it. As growlycat says, it's common.

I hope your session on Friday goes well - we'll have your back!