I empathize with her, her kids and you greatly, lmt83. I wish for her and her kids to be well. Additionally, it is most kind, courageous, empathetic and friendly of you to (try to) help her. I am no source of authority on any of the issues of which we are speaking. Moreover, I have only done how ever much research on such issues and topics. I could provide some links to web articles, blogs and so forth in attempt to help you to any degree, including brainstorming. As another member noted, therapy for her can be helpful, but it is a question of finding both a professional and approach that will indeed help her. There might be support groups to join as well. Even the abuse hotline is another option, are you aware of if she talked to any advocate? Other than that, if you are willing to receive more suggestions, I will attempt to tell you some.



According to professionals of different occupations (counselor, psychiatrist, psychologist and so on) on blogs and articles, the attempt to find a professional, who is well trained in, knowledgeable of and and conscious of such interconnected topics of sociopathy/psychopathy, personality disorders, relationships with someone of a personality disorder and more, is most difficult.

Consequently, for your friend, people (e.g. you, she) might ought to research people, who work as professionals and are well equipped and oriented to help her. (I am not saying that research is already not being done. I am just emphasizing the challenge in finding someone, who will indeed probably help her.)

An important side note is that there are people, who are so manipulative, that they will deceive and even convince the professional that they are not a responsible actor in a relationship with what ever circumstances and fabricate the appearance of responsibility on the other person in the relationship.