I need to say something. I don't know if my post, because I am angry in it, makes it seem like I shouldn't be validated, or that there's no need for my feelings or upsets. But I did need to be validated. The reason I was upset was because I wasn't by my mother. And literally, I have quite a complicated relationship with her because of her constant invalidation (and disinterest and emotional neglect) ever since I was a kid. I care about her (and I feel sad that I did not go to the function today). But I'm reading a book right now about boundaries, and its opening my eyes. It is harder to let things roll off my back sometimes, when I read things like this. It would have been upsetting anyway for her to do this. But I think I might be at a turning point with this. Invalidating and unempathic language is triggering for me. Stepping away.