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Originally Posted by LabRat27
So I know this topic has been made a bunch of times, but I'm trying to work my way up to it and I'm terrified.
I've only been seeing my therapist for a few months, but the attachment is getting stronger, and I know that the longer I see him the stronger it's going to get. If he's going to have a negative reaction and decide that I'm too much to handle or that he doesn't want to deal with it I'd much rather it happen now than later when it would only hurt more.
I'm considering printing off this article, highlighting the most relevant bits, putting a post it note on it explaining that, while it's not quite at that extreme yet, that I know based on past patterns that it probably will get to this point and that if he doesn't want to deal with it then I understand and I won't hold it against him, but I'd rather know sooner rather than later.
Then handing it to him and telling him I'll be sitting on the floor hiding behind my chair while he reads it and that he'll understand why once he reads it and he can decide to let me know once he's done reading it whether he wants to discuss it.
Attachment to Therapist: A Primer
I definitely don't think I could say it out loud or be looking at him while he reads it. I think I need to hide and wait for it to be over with, if that makes sense. He doesn't do email, so this is the next best thing I think.
My next appointment is Friday, so I have the entire week to panic and second guess myself about this.
For those who have told their therapists or had their therapists figure it out, how did it go? How did your therapist react? Did your therapist seem shocked or unprepared to handle it? What happened after? |
I want to thank you for posting the link to the article about attachment. I never read that one and it's excellent! As far as my experience, with the exception of my first T, because I didn't have a clue about attachment or transference, I told them about my attachment and it was always okay. They never explained it too well ( it always about unmet needs from my past) so I was somewhat embarrassed and didn't talk about it much.
My current T does Internal Family Systems so she welcomed my child parts who attached to her, and even the teenage part who felt like she was in love with her. I used to be embarrassed but I've been seeing my T for ,8 years so I'm more relaxed about my attachment to her, and can even say "I love you" to her. It's a closeness, not a sexual kind of love.
I hope it goes well for you. I think it's rare for a T NOT to accept and understand attachment these days. It's normal.