I think what’s been important for me is to see that we can get mad at each other and it doesn’t mean that we can’t still have a good relationship/get along, etc. Helps me challenge splitting, I guess.
I get what you guys are saying, I could see this going very badly with some people/see how it could turn abusive. But I really think that this therapy has been really effective for me/is what I need. As weird as that might be.