I have a similar issue with my mom, she helpfully reminded me there may be better candidates at my interview so not to feel bad if I didn't get the job. She means well too but it's hard shrugging that off isn't it.

I think the best thing is compassion, realise they don't mean harm and it's just how they are.

As for the neighbour, that was way out of line but sounds like you are handling it okay.