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What are the age difference? I am 51 and he is 30 something and the inner child does not care. It just wants a loving caring parent to take care of it no matter the age. I am also in the that attachment group daydreaming about him taking care of me the way I should have been as a child. When that child part is activated I do not move forward in my adult life. Life becomes stagnant, painful and at times I hate how I feel and just do not want to exist anymore.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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