What are the age difference? I am 51 and he is 30 something and the inner child does not care. It just wants a loving caring parent to take care of it no matter the age. I am also in the that attachment group daydreaming about him taking care of me the way I should have been as a child. When that child part is activated I do not move forward in my adult life. Life becomes stagnant, painful and at times I hate how I feel and just do not want to exist anymore.