This is an interesting way to look at the meltdowns that are inevitable in therapy and in relationships in general.

There is some good research out there on resilience and how it can affect peoples' lives and I think that good therapeutic relationships can be little laboratories in which to "practice" being resilient.

Here is where I go wrong. I want harmony, understanding and insight from my T and when they go wrong, I pretty much go on a downward spiral. I see lack of harmony and agreement as evidence that the relationship is doomed and I freak out.

I think calling this a knock back and finding ground underneath me is going to be better than calling it doomed and heading for the door.

Super insightful thread, or maybe just because I'm in this particular phase right now. Also I see a co-worker of mine who struggles even more than me with this particular "thing."