I wouldn't be able to deal with a T yelling at me either (my marriage counselor came close, and that was the interaction that ultimately led to the end of our relationship).

Out of curiosity...do you maybe feel in some ways that you *deserve* to be yelled at? Like, you feel badly about yourself, so you think you should be, in a sense, punished or disciplined? If there's some sort of shame and/or guilt and/or self-loathing there that makes you feel you deserve it, that could be a good topic for therapy.