I think it's a label or definition someone else gives one and I don't take defining from outside.

I wouldn't refer to any woman by that label since I am not that woman and can't know what she is doing or her reasons for doing it and it's not my business. It's a wholly negative word and I don't believe anyone is wholly negative or all one characteristic. Even someone labeled a "depressive" or BPD has several criteria, some depth to them. But ***** doesn't go with much; I'm not putting ***** and mother together or wife and ***** or daughter and *****. . . they don't go in my mind. So, if you get a mother or wife or daughter (or any other "normal" role for a woman) then that negates the other for me.