One thing I’d like to warn you about is that sometimes when we experience personal growth we can get negative reactions from those around us. It’s probably because we aren’t acting like our “usual selves.”

I love my husband but he learned passive aggression from his family of origin. It drives him crazy when I don’t buy into it.

Example: we have a cat and out of the blue he’ll demand to know where the cat is. (Translation; go find the cat.) this morning we had the following conversation.

Hubman: where’s the cat
Me: don’t know
Hubman: well when was the last time you saw him
Me: last night when he stuck his big hairy a@@ in my face.
Hubman: well what if he got out:
Me: so what if he did? (He can’t get out of the yard)
Hubman: well I’m naked, go find him.
Me: if you want to know where he is, put some clothes on and look for him.
Husband: slams door, comes out clothed and thrashes around the yard and finds the cat.
Husband: you don’t care about the cat!
Me: I do care, but I don’t have the words to express how much I don’t care where he is every moment of the day. I support his right to be a cat.
Hubman: are you ok? Have you taken your Meds? You seem cranky. (Tranlastion; you didn’t buy into my bullish!t and I don’t like that.)

Just a day in a life.