My brother in law is great. We have a lot of laughs together. I always pictured him marrying someone nice and we could go on holiday together. He then married her. My sister in law and I don't get along. I think she is lazy (she quit working 1 year before their wedding she had no kids) I on the other hand worked two jobs and went to school up until the day before I delivered my first baby. She now has one son whom she never takes anywhere. She does nothing but chat on line (lol ironic isn't it) but I am just taking a break from homework (I have gone back to school) Her parents are sucking him into their family they hate me as well as his parents. I have found out that they don't have any retirement plan and her two siblings still live at home and aren't going to move out anytime soon. I think they are looking at my brother in law as a retirement plan. He comes home from work and takes care of the kid while she goes off and does her thing. The list goes on and on. She thinks I am opinionated and bossy. She is right but that is why I am always put in charge of planning anything that goes on, from family events to town golf tournaments. I am good at what I do. I can't be all lazy lump of skin being wishy washy all day. Should I try to be nice and overlook my tired and used brother in law and if so how. (I am married to the oldest so I knew this kid since he was eight years old. I feel like a protective older sister)