I never ever ever talk to him or her about it. He has no idea I feel this way about her. She and I just naturally mix like oil and water. Is he happy??? I have watched him grow being beaten by his step father, locked in the shed over night when he did something wrong. I have heard him crying because all the kids at school picked on him. He threw all of his pictures in the garbage because he had crossed eyes. (I was to young to do anything about it) He always said that he would marry for life no matter what. He had this picture in his head of the perfect wife now here she is. I think he will kill himself to make this happy. Even my husband who is mister it is none of our business is getting angry. I think the last straw was when the brothers were talking and having a bonding moment (they hadn't seen each other in eight months) and she texted him to come up and get the baby in its sleeper and lay it down for the night. She texted him from one room away. While he did that she went down and played on the computer. The next day when they were leaving he asked me to watch the baby while she was on the computer and he packed up everything and got the baby ready packed the car and she ignored the entire family while she was on the computer. The boy gets up at 4:30 and is in bed at 11:30 he works 12 - 16 hour shifts comes home cooks, looks after the baby and does the housework. Now for my husband Mr. you made your bed now lye in it to take notice and start to get mad then you know his brother is getting treated like dirt. I am not pretending to be perfect. I am far from it but I have a husband who keeps me in check. I never have said boo about how she treats my brother in law or my husband and I in our house. I just want to know should I be nice to her continue to invite her down to our house. When I have been at their house I have been asked to buy groceries, cook and clean. She then complains about the food I cook and makes my brother in law go out and get her take out. I still haven't said anything about the way I feel.