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I feel like I'm not being a compassionate caring wife

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Well, maybe you aren't. Is it possible you don't care about your husband anymore? Have you explored that possibility in therapy?

Why do you think your T assigned you to focus on filling your husband's needs for the next few weeks? Does she really think it will make you feel better?

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I'm supposed to love him and want to care for him when he needs me.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Who said so? Maybe you don't care about him anymore. Maybe this exercise that T assigned to you will lead you to some important self knowledge instead of trying to live up to society's expectations of a wife.

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Why can't I just give him what he needs?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Could it be that you are angry at him? My husband did nothing to fulfill any of my needs for many years, and I am not an outwardly needy person at all. I think he was very angry at me. I don't know why, but that was how he showed it.

What does your husband do to fill your needs or does he just want one-sided care?

Is your husband an invalid?

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For some reason I can't just leave.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Do you mean leave your husband?

Sorry so many questions! (((((mckell)))))