So I had a blow up at work a few years ago... basically I was happy to cut loose a lot of people who didn't meet stringent standards for my friendship. I also have been reluctant to be all in with new people because I don't want to get too close. I cut everyone from facebook...

And I have to say, it has been a total dud.

New people are hurt and annoyed I won't do things with them, knowing nothing about my background.

Old people remain influential and the fact that I am not with them makes me less influential.

People think I have zero friends and am weird because I have no facebook friends.

I am only hurting myself. But the thing is.. I am incapable of being "friends" with someone and not believing they are my friend. If I let myself be friends with these people and open back up to them.. I am sure they will take advantage and I probably will be get hurt... but there is no way for me to open myself up and not have it be all the way.

I see no other way out though?

Should I forgive and forget?