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Originally Posted by Favorite Jeans
Anyway, to return to the original question: unrestrained venting. Not necessarily the hugest emotional risk, the actual topic of the would-be rant is often pretty low-stakes, familiar territory. But that total warmth and familiarity? The gut level sense of safety that allows for talk now, think later? I'm often not there. And she hasn't made me tea. She hasn't met me at that level yet.
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That's so well put, and points to how individual this is for each of us. You are needing something in the relationship to create that sense of safety, whereas I have no problem speaking freely because there is no sense of relationship in the room. I don't think I'm better off for it, though, other than I know I said what was on my mind. But there really is no benefit to it. In your case, it seems there would be a benefit because what comes with speaking your mind is the result of feeling safety in the relationship.