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Originally Posted by mostlylurking
Could it possibly be not only the caring aspect, but something to do with equality? In some contexts it would be rude to make oneself tea and not offer to do the same for someone else who's there, although the therapy relationship is an odd one. Perhaps if you don't feel quite like equals, you feel you have to edit what you're saying carefully, as if talking to someone in a supervisory position or something like that? I don't mean that you'd think this rationally of course -- just wondering about other meanings / symbolism of her having tea and you going without.
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Huh. That's a really good point. We're not pals. We have a pretty friendly relationship and I do simply like her in her moments of unguarded humanness. But there's a power relationship for sure and I'm always conscious of it.
The other thing that has occurred to me along those lines is that I have kind of let her occupy a maternal place in my heart and sometimes relate to her from a childlike place. My paradigm for that relationship is one in which the child gets judged and is found wanting. So of course I'm gonna be careful with what I say and how I say it.