Hey, thanks for the words of advice and comfort. sincity74 - am sorry to hear that you struggle with this. My husband sees a counsellor every 2 weeks but they seem to go round the same circle and not look to how he can move forward. He tells me she is not there to tell him what to do, and I agree, but I would have thought she would help him explore how he can try to move on in some way. She is also not linked to our doctors in any way so there is no feedback to them at all.

I will see what support the doctor can offer me - my real panic is that I get ill in some way and then where will we be?

Maybe we could attend some counselling together - I will ask him after I have seen the doctor - that may be a measure of how willing he is to get better.