I'm more familiar with couples going out for dinner when sales pitches are the name of the game. Usually it's an invite the spouse scenario.

I, personally, don't believe I'd give an ounce of trust about 'are you awake' messages.

Sounds like a tiff over the discovery of aforementioned texts? That [discovery] typically is fueled by feelings of disconnect to begin with. Which isn't typically some shortcoming in character.