The tea thing would bother me....although like you not entirely sure why...I think for me it would be because it reinforces the boundaries of the relationship and the fact that we are not 'friends' in any way as to me having tea or coffee with my t would almost be a step closer to friendship almost more personal or something especially when one on one...I dunno. Perhaps thats because I usually have tea with people I am either friends with, family or people I am hoping/planning to be friends with.

I try to speak as freely as I can and feel I do a relatively okay job but my T thinks I hold back things and I guess he is right. I think that is perhaps down to the power imbalance amongst a few others things.