My art T offers me tea. Former art T has as well. I've always liked it, it makes me feel cared for. And yes, there's something about equality in it as well, and sharing.

Art T has offered tea right from the beginning. In fact the first few sessions I was very happy that I could stare into this cup of tea. It helps to (re-)establish the connection. Warming up in winter, literally. I would comment if the tea tastes differently, for whatever reason. In fact, a couple of times I outright asked her for 'my' cup of tea when she forgot, for whatever reason. And just the fact, that I was able to ask her for tea, showed me that I've made huge progress.

Will you tell your T that it's about the tea (tea being symbol for something else in terms of trust, eye-level etc...)? Might unfold an interesting conversation.

Also I found, that quite often, my fears of T judging me, and me thus holding back, are fears from the past. So T making clear, over and over again, that she will not judge me, that it is not her intention to judge me, does help to break the hold of the past. And yes, a cup of tea helps as well in this process. Sharing something. Establishing trust. It carries so much more meaning than just some hot liquid brew...