Well her reply to the email was "I can do tea "

But then she didn't.

The first time we talked about it was right after the email which I'd sent the night before because I knew that otherwise I wouldn't bring it up. I don't remember that session well, it was one of those times that I was so close to panic that I later could only remember the panic and not the content. But I can say for sure that a cup of tea was not part of that session.

The other time was nearly a year ago when I laid out my plan to deal with the attachment stuff. Tea got a mention within a larger hand-drawn cartoon/poster of what I thought was going on and what I need from her.

I sometimes wonder if she has a poor memory for some kinds of detail. Or a philosophy of T/tea that she has yet to elucidate. Or her own issue that is getting in the way.