The T Tao of Tea. If it could sustain the Empire, therapy should be a piece of cake (preferably with tea.)

My T generally has her coffee--I think she either gets it from the nearby shop or from the business office across the hall--and I bring my own travel cup of tea. But she occasionally brings in a piece of chocolate for herself and offers me one, too. I've never attached any special meaning to it, and I doubt she has, just because she's very down to earth in her personality.

It sounds like your T thinks you keep a bit of distance from your emotions. And your gut level feeling is that she isn't/ won't/can't? hold the depth of your emotions? And some resentment/hurt about that? I guess the challenge is to figure out if it's coming from you or her?

Mine told me she thinks I'm very stoic--that I'm always put together and greet her cheerfully, that I don't whine or complain. I suppose that means most of her clients do? IDK. That's just not my personality. I'm pretty open emotionally if what I'm talking about has strong feelings, but I don't feel conflicted in general. What I talk about and how doesn't really have much to do with her. I think I puzzle her a bit.