Mckell, whats a loving wife? something we read about in those 1940 comics? your a woman in a partnership wiht another adult. You can't make an insane situation sane, it will just make you feel crazy. I don't know what the situation is re your husband, but he needs to take responsibity for his life and get help, if not medical then psychological. in al-alon they talk about the 3 c's, I didntn' Cause it, I Can't Change it.