Maybe you could give some thought to what your definition of loyalty is? I read somewhere that compassion is the willingness to suffer “with” someone not “for” them. What does being on their side mean to you or them? Does this mean agreeing with them that what they did wa not harmful to them or others, or do they want you to accept them and love them despite their “faults.”

I’m a firm believer in we get what we give philosophy. If loyalty is an issue for you, do some deep sea diving into what you think it is. Telling someone “I told you so” when they make a mistake is really not that supportive. Maybe reframe your thinking to something like....hmmm that didn’t work out well for you. Would you like to brainstorm ways you can prevent that from happening again?