So what if she was a psychopath? That is past tense. I hope you find some way to get past these intense feeling that you “know” what someone else needs. You don’t ....period. You literally do not have the right to decide what someone else needs. Maybe you can direct your focus inward and learn how to love yourself and providing yourself with what you need. Until you learn to love yourself instead of focusing outward everything is going to go sideways and feel weird.