*Beware, sexual content, discussion of sexual abuse*



I wasn't sure where to post this.

But I had a question regarding my friends child and was wondering ya'lls opinion on this matter.

My neighbor/friend has two children ages 3 and 5. Sometimes I'd let her kids come over when she'd call whining about how they're driving her nuts. Her kids are very well behaved for me most of the time and it gives my kids something to do, so I let them come over to play.

Well, yesterday I let her 3 year old daughter come over right before I left for class. My husband said he'd be fine with the children so I left for my short Tuesday class.

Class let out early and I came home. The three year old had already gone. I asked my husband where she was and he said "I sent her home, she's not allowed to come here anymore". I found that very odd because my husband has a soft heart for kids and never sent them home, I was the one that had to send them home.

I asked my husband what happened and he told me how the little girl kept going into the bathroom and taking off her clothes. At first I was like...big deal, my two year old can't keep clothes on neither, but then he said she kept calling me to the bathroom. Before he continued telling the rest of the story he made me swear I wouldn't say anything to my friend. I swore to him, and he continued saying that when he cracked the door to tell her to put her clothes back on she opened it up and tried to grab his private parts. The look on my husband face was pure horror, this definitely bothered him. He said after that he shut the door and waited for her to come out dressed not knowing what to do, then sent her home when she did.

I feel horrible for my husband because I know this had to've scared the beejezez out of him. He certainly didn't understand and neither did I. He tried to convince me to never allow her over again but I couldn't promise that...so we agreed that I'd always have to be here and she couldn't be alone in the toy room with our children, just in case she tries to be inappropriate with them.

It's a scary situation. I've questioned...was she abused? If so, who would do this to her? I can't imagine who...it could be so many different people, I'm not sure what to do.

When I got to thinking about her I noticed that she had many signs of abuse but I never correlated the two. Like she says the strangest sexual things and she's very odd with men. I also recall my friend telling me that it was wrong for my son and daughter to share a room because when her son and daughter shared a room she walked in on them touching one another. For some reason I didn't think much of it....I just thought, "their babies and probably curious".

All I know, as far as this circumstance goes, is my friend was sexually abused all her life....maybe, somehow, her behaviors passed on to her daughter and it just SEEMS she's been sexually abused. Odviously I'm trying to understand.



The last thing I want to do is alienate this little girl, or ask her any questions. I'm to scared to go to my friend too because I KNOW she will be on the defensive, especially with her experiences.

My husband says to let it go and mind my business, focus on my kids......BUT, if Hailee (that's the lil girls name) is being abused I want to know and I want to know now. My husband says if somehow he ever finds out who's doing this...he will hurt them so maybe it's best we never mention it again.

What should I do....I'm seriously stumped and concerned.