This all depends on your husband and whether he wants to get better now. It's not fair to do this to you neither, you have enough on your plate I'm sure. I'd give him the alternative...tell him, either you get TRY your hardest to get better or continue living this a way. Sometimes when you get into that pit of depression nothing seems to help, but the reality is theres a world of help out there.

I hope things get better for you and family.