Does anyone feel like they're in a good spot, and encouraged by it, then we meet our nemesis trigger and it all goes to crap?

Well this just happened to me yesterday. Mom is the Number One trigger for me, almost embarrassing for someone my age. So I call on Sunday and she says "did you get my message"? I tell her I haven't had a chance to listen to it and she gets on me about not listening to my messages, how disrespectful it is, etc etc. The usual rap. Then yesterday, I called to wish her a happy anniversary and without missing a beat, she asked me if I went to a wake for a friend of hers. I tell her "no" and she gets on me again.

I can avoid things like crowds, traffic, and such, but I can't ignore the people in my life that keep pushing me. It's discouraging.